So this is a random topic for this post but is something I’ve been thinking about for awhile, especially after a sister friend and I were discussing it at a womans conference several weeks ago.
Do you think that lets say, if a Muslimah *normally* wears say, for example; long khimaars and skirts that she shouldnt sometimes switch it up with say a regular shoulder garment and say a ample sized shaylah or square OR with a overhead abaya/chador? Or if a sister normally wears overheads she shouldnt say-now and again wear a shoulder abaya?
I ask all of your opinions to this question because I normally get two reactions to this question…
1) NO…when you *choose* a form of attire you *must* always wear it.
example- like if you show up at the masjid in a long khimaar some women will think you’ve moved on to “another level” and to then show up the next day in say a short khimaar or a regular scarf would seem borderline sacrilegious.
As another example, I know this American-born, Gulf descented sister and she wants to wear overheads generally but she still would want to sometimes wear her shoulder abayaat. Her mom, father and grandmom say NO…if you choose to wear overhead abaya you can “never” go back to even shoulder abayaat…i.e. what you choose is akin to a religious vow.
2) YES, this is OK…variety is the spice of life. As long as the sisters attire is in line with the codes of proper hejab then its fine to 1 day wear an overhead, the next day wear a shoulder or a long khimaar.
…example, the said Niqabi sister I discussed this with at a conference mostly wears shoulder abayaat and long shaylahs but in the summer does prefer batwing overheads and she doesnt see why it should matter, as long as shes covered.
So do you all get what I mean…what all do YOU think??? And…what would be the opinion of this in ur community?
**Please note, I’m not talking about switching between wearing niqab one day and no niqab the next day OR tunics and pants one day and long khimaars and skirts the next. I’m talking about gradual variations along the same general form of dress-say sometimes shoulder abayat and somes head abayaat or sometimes long khimaars and sometimes regular scarves. I clarify this as I can *just picture* one reader flipping out over this post thinking I’m advocating changing styles drastically per day. LOL. I’m not…auzhoobillah.
I just wanted to add my thoughts since I’ve recieved quite a few comments on this question. Alhamdullah.
So, personally I think number 2 is good. Like while I *generally* wear overheads of some sort (batwing, sleeved or Algerian jelbab style), I dont *always*…because you know, sometimes I want to wear a shoulder garment too, although I tend to not have too many problems with the overheads as when I have my son with me, I try to wear one of my sleeved styles as frankly its easier with a child and carrying bags or a purse. But, if i’m alone, I do prefer the batwing styles as I feel they cover better and look more elegant.
But, I do know some sisters who truely think once you choose a particular style you must-indeed stick to it. Like I know a sister who wants to now and then wear the long Egyptian-style khimaars, but is fearful because her husband, inlaws and even the Egyptian masjid community will think very-very poorly of her if she say, one day didnt wear them. I know another sister who is half Moroccan who said when she switched from long khimars *daily* to those extremely long and wide shaylahs that she got some confusion/slack from other Muslims.
So I guess… whatever. hehehe