asalaamu alaikum wr wb!
Honestly, let me all tell you something. Some of you may object and say I am some crazy fundie-LOL…but I just *have* to say it. I’m sure it won’t make a rats butt of a difference…
Sisters…if your showing up at the masjid and your rump, hips, chest and half of ya arms are having out but you have a perfect scarf on ya head then guess what…serious shame on you! I know, yes, I’m so mean. But frankly…this Ramadhan I am in shock and awe at all the half-nekkid hejabis who show up at the masjid for salaat, iftaar and taraweeh. Really…is it THAT hard to put on a shirt that covers you to your knees? That isnt SKIN tight, half or 3/4th sleeves or even better, a regular tight shirt to your hips with regular jeans?…but…a perfect scarf!
How is that even OK? How is that appropriate. Your going to the MASJID…a place of prayer, of the deen! Yet your half nekkid with your curves out on holiday? I dont personally believe hejab is worn because men can’t control themselves-no, they can, thats just a lame-o excuse…its for MODESTY (in general), to show the world that your a RELIGIOUS MUSLIM!! How can you show your a religious Muslim if every person can see your a size 10 with a large butt???
And it gets better, should you say anything, others who are equally half dressed rush to their aid saying, nah…its OK….and if you say something, “your the bad guy” your a “crazy fundie”.
Like tonight. A new Muslimah came in and asked me whether she could pray in her 3/4th length sleeves, butt length shirt and pants and a scarf. It was indeed fairly modest attire…but I personally ascribe to the typical Islamic rulings that hejab encompasses the entire ensemble and hence you must be covered in baggy attire to your wrists and down to your feet…and preferably an overgarment or something loose and baggy is prefered. I said, yes it’s pretty modest but suggested she put on a prayer skirt and khimaar to ensure her modesty and to ensure her attire is clean. Afterwards she came up to me, huffing how hot she was and said, but other women here have on sleeves to their elbows and short shirts…thats OK right? I really couldnt say much because at that moment some of them came over and said, yeah…its OK! Why make things hard for yourself?!?
I just dropped it…I was out numbered…in my long jelbab and chest covering maghneh…I was the odd goose in a sea of short shirts, quarter sleeves and jeggings with perfect scarves covering nothing! I’m not saying this to say I’m perfect…I’m not. But I am very concerned about my hejab as its an outward extension of my faith for the world to see. Yes sometimes I wear a three-quarter length manteaus with wide legged, flowingpants, sometimes I wear a full length jelbab/pardesu or Algerienne jelbab or full abaya…but even if I wore a knee length manteau I would wear it with a skirt or those wide legged Shukr lengha pants and a big scarf covering everything. I would never knowingly go out with my shape exposed (atleast to my knowledge and best efforts!)…it defeats the purpose of hejab.
I just believe that OK…you wanna walk around the block half nekkid…whatever…its between you and your Rabb…its a shame, because it reflects badly on other Muslim women…but whatever…BUT coming to the masjid dressed like this…is really just bad and improper!! It is now adays EXTREMELY easy to find long, knee length tunics…even a maxi dress with a cardi and a decent sized scarf would suffice. I was in Target today and asw 2 different styles of calf and knee length shirt dresses in various colors and the material was heavy cotton, good quality…its NOT hard to find modest attire at all. Why the nekkidness? Especially to the masjid where you come to pray to your Lord???!!??
I dunno, this really upsets me and its not just me, tonight several sisters were discussing this as well and really its not appropriate.
Just to add as a postscript…whats up with all the scarf wearing Muslim women with fashion blogs who post pictures of themselves posing like they are super models sashaying down the run way for Gucci or something? I am finding it pretty redundant, over done and immodest and c’mon…do you really need to pose in such a fake manner to show off your tunic and jeans? C’mon…get with it.