bismillah ir-rahman ir-raheem…
After seeing this posted on a facebook I became sad and angry all at the same time! You all know I’m rather tired with the incessent lack of proper hejab from my sisters. I’m tired of the whole “hijabi-fashionist” nonsense which is a joke and am tired of seeing sisters walking around town in hootchie-mama gear, lookin’ like 2dollar you know whats with a scarf on there head!
But, I’m just as tired of the lack of hejab as the whole package from both Muslim men and women in general. This whole thing of the hejab is just a headscarf or the headscarf is a sign of respectability (forgetting about everything from the neck down!) or that Muslim men dont have their on form of hejab they need to be practice or that Muslim men have a right to chide Muslim women for not wearing modest attire yet they neglect the rest of the package and their on modesty in turn!
Anyway…I found this blog post about the hejab in Malaysia. While I do agree with maybe 90-95% of what this brother writes, about 5-10% I do not and yes I left a reply. So first read the blog post and then read my reply and you’ll probably agree with me. Its never OK to tell a sister she should cover her face because shes gorgeous and men can’t help but look! Its not just on her to be modest but also upon the man too! I’m sorry but the excuse of…well, men can’t help but look, therefore, she should cover MORE is inexcusable…thats like blaming a woman who was harrassed while she as walking home from work and we all know that no matter how many layers of cloth a woman puts on, some men will still have NO hayah and STILL look! Just read my old posts from my life in Saudi and you’ll agree with me. I found the more layers I wore, the more stalked and harrassed I was! My husband and I saw many elderly Saudi omen stalked and harrassed as well! So just because one has niqab on, doesnt mean they are gorgeous or men will not look or that they will be protected.
anyway, enough of my blatherings…
“asalaamu alaikum wr wb. While I do agree with 95% of what you say brother. I am in the US and am irked to see both Muslim men AND women trash the hejab, making a joke from it. I wanted to point out 2 things which you neglected.
1) the hejab is NOT just about a headscarf. Its about proper, modest attire, behavior and piety for both Muslim men and women! This includes covering the curves for both genders and modest behavior-i.e. not looking at the opposite gender. You should have touched on that as it came off to me, that you were solely mentioning hejab in the sense of a head scarf and modest dress and neglecting to entire sense of hejab and the male as well as female versions.
2) while I agree those “hejabi” celebrities are indeed not taking the hejab properly…
I do not think it was advisable to suggest a sister cover her face because she is so pretty. Firstly, from the scholarly viewpoint, most Muslim scholars from all the madhabs do not say the niqab is fard, its a good act but not required. Pretty looks or ugly looks have no bearing. Its about modesty, and thats it. Two, telling a sister to cover he face because she is pretty is also degrading the niqab! Thats like telling a sister who you deem ugly to take off her niqab because…well, noone will look at you anyway! Brother, thats not a good view. Infact its upon Muslim MEN to have modesty and hayah and to lower THERE gaze and NOT look at the muhajabaat or munaqabaat in the first place! Its a sin upon the man to do this and a sin upon the woman to do things to attract their looks. Now if a sister is very beautiful, as long as she is not going around trying to get attention then there is no sin upon her if she doesnt wear niqab. and vise-versa…also putting on the niqab is no guarantee that beautiful sister will not be even MORE beautiful. Ive lived in Saudi and I can tell you, many men prefer women IN Niqab because they look mysterious, also many women in niqab use it to there advantage to look even prettier.
hence, it boils down to ones intentions…and its on BOTH genders to ensure they follow their requirements for hejab as the hejab is just not obligatory upon women and is not just a scarf and modest attire. but the whole package, ditto for men. “