Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Raheem
well…it dawned on me yesterday that there are *still* some Muslim sisters who are naive and who like to imagine that we live in a world where wearing hejab OR niqab (esp niqab) will somehow protect them from nasty, creepy individuals!
Although Ive been aware of this for over a decade now…I like to imagine that the newer lot is somehow more “savvy” and know this stuff better than those of us who are my age and older. But…alas…apparently not so. This revelation hit me yesterday evening when I checked my FB (rare thing! I loath FB) and noticed that a sister friend…someone whom I know from real life (but has since moved away) and who wears niqab and who is a fairly newish convert (like 2 years) and who is younger than me (…specific huh?) posted a picture of what was VERY OBVIOUSLY a niqab fetishist dressed up in a VERY extreme form of niqab, posing sitting on a couch…like the type of picture NO REAL niqabi would ever take…and when I brought this up to the friend she didnt understand what I was talking about nor understood what I was really saying…aka…that pic you have up on ur profile is a dude dressed up in niqab, cuz he gets kicks outta it…ewww!
I then launched into this long winded, several comments long explanation of who these people are and what they do and where the picture probably came from…now, yes I do know what i’m talking about as I co-moderated two groups on Yahoo for Muslim sisters who cover for well over a decade and we always had these people trying to join our group…sometimes they were crafty enough and actually got through our careful screening process, but we’d figure it out quickly as they always had the same type of postings and pictures and lo, sisters would sometimes find their own pictures on THEIR own websites or groups. *shudder*
Anyway…so, i digress, yes, I know what I’m talking about. I though that by my explaining all of this, I was educating my friend and ALSO those on her friends list about who these people are and what to watch out for! But alas…she deleted all of my comments saying it was “fitnah”….
LOL…really…fitnah? No comment…
Anyway…whatever. My purpose of sharing this is to explain to my readers…esp. those who do NOT know that these types of people, do infact exist, they are creepy, they troll any group, website or page which has pictures of covered women on it!
I found this very concise, straight to the point bit about them from a posting on another Yahoo group called Embracing Islam
Veil (Hijab) Fetishists
There are two types of Hijab Fetishists out there: the kind who “have fun” simply looking at pictures of veiled women (and who build websites and swap veiled photographs), and the kind who enjoy writing stories and initiating correspondence about veiling. Very often, these fetishists are not Muslim and do not pretend to be.
The first kind are relatively innocuous. All the photographs of women on their website are likely to be women in full (face) veils. The e-mail exchanges they have tend to center on swapping nothing more than photos. Their pages (one of which is very popular with Muslim women) tend to focus solely on photographs. Any text on their sites will deal with historical and socio-cultural views of veiling, and almost completely leave out religious writings, such as ayat (verses) from the Qur’an. Links on their site will take you to more pages (Islamic and not) about veiling, or even to pages of a sexual nature.
The second kind are not as harmless. They exchange stories of a sexual nature, centered on the female character being veiled, and swap photographs of both veiled and…shall we say, partially veiled women. They sometimes engage in “role playing” on e-mail lists and in chat rooms. Again, most of them don’t even bother with religious (or even historical) ideas about veiling, and most of them can’t be bothered to pretend they are Muslims.
However, there are a few fairly active Veil Fetishists out there who do pretend to be Muslim women. They try to get Muslim women to write things or send photographs that they would never knowingly share with a man, much less a man (or woman) who is sexually aroused by veiling. What these Veil Fetishists do is create a Yahoo! or AOL id with a Muslim woman’s name. They then “troll” various e-mail groups, message boards, and chat rooms looking for Muslim women to talk to about veiling.
One individual is known for pretending to be a new Muslim woman who needs “help” learning how to pin the hijab. This individual tries to find sisters who have web-cams and asks them to turn the camera on, and do a step by step demonstration of how to put the hijab on so “she” can learn. This person has been at this for more than a year as of this writing (August 2003).
Another group of people are far more extreme and much more insidious. The things that they say and engage in online could be extremely damaging to an unsuspecting Muslima’s heart and mind. This group includes several individuals who pretend that they are “extremely conservative” Muslim women, although they almost never use the word “Salafi” (probably because they aren’t familiar with it).
They set up web pages and Yahoo! groups about “Extreme Conservative Veiling,” “Silent Niqaabis,” and so on. Not all members of these groups are Muslims, nor do they claim to be. For example, some claim to be “conservative Christians,” while others are just “secular conservatives” who are into veiling for “social reasons.” These people then join authentic Muslim women’s groups, troll for very conservative and / or fully veiled women, and invite them to join their groups. Unfortunately, a number of sincere and innocent Muslimas have joined these groups. “
These types also have a perchance for requesting very extreme forms of niqab and abayaat from sisters who vend! I remember when I was in Saudi and was running Arabian Threads I had some very strange requests from these types….niqabs which soffocate, abayaat which hobble…need I go on? auzhoobillahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajeem! I as like, uh…I cant help ya there!
So in closing…just be wary sisters! dont give these people access to your personal photos and videos-esp if you wear niqab! Pay attention to who you are talking to online and even…in real life, are they really who they say they are? Basically…just know these types exist!
and a picture and convo from flickr which sums it up…